Secrets to getting kids to do their homework - m
Ask your child about it and believe what he says. See what works and motivates him instead of what motivates you. Stop the nightly fights. The way you can stop fighting with your kids over homework every night is to stop fighting with them tonight. I believe that children are motivatedthey just may not be motivated the way youd like them to be. Here are some concrete tips to help you guide them in their work without having to nag, threaten or fight with them. I cant motivate him to do anything. But you canstart todo it by calming down, slowing down, and simply observing. Observe the typical family dance steps and see if you and your mate contribute to your childs refusal, struggle and apathy. Think of it this way: Its better for your child to learn from those consequences at age ten by failing his grade and having to go to summer school than for him to learn at age 25 by losing his job. If not, what do you want to do about it? How can I be helpful to you? The expectation is that homework is done to the best of your childs ability. Disengage from the dance. Choose some different steps or decide not to dance at all. Let homework stay where it belongsbetween the teacher and the student. Refuse to get pulled in by the school in the future. If you carry more of the worry, fear, disappointments, and concern than your child does about his work, ask yourself Whats wrong with this picture and how did this happen? (Remember, as long as you carry their concerns, they dont have to.) Guide Your ChildDont Try to Control Him, many parents tell me that their children are not motivated to. When Your Child Has a Learning Disability, i want to note that its very important that you check to see that there are no other learning issues around your childs refusal to do homework.